On October 17, 2015, my daughter Madison was born asleep. I was 34 weeks pregnant. I can remember walking into the hospital, Jeff, Reeves and I holding hands and thinking this was the last time we would walk anywhere as a family of 3. It was such shocking and devastating news and shattered me in so many ways. Hearing the words “we cannot find a hearbeat”. The heartbreaking feeling of holding her after she was delivered and knowing we would never hear her laugh, see her smile, watch her bound down the stairs after her big brother. Feeling cheated and sad that this world would not see the light that she was. Leaving the hospital with empty arms knowing all the plans we had were forever changed.
I smile now when I remember many things about her. Things only I got to experience as her Mom. That girl wore me out with how active she was! She was constantly on the move. She was already giving her Daddy fits – every time she would kick and I would grab Jeff’s hand to feel it she would stop. At the time, we did not know if we were having a little boy or girl so I used to joke with Jeff that we were definitely having a girl and this was only the beginning! And like any good southern lady, my girl loved tomato sandwiches. With loads of mayo and salt and pepper. I seriously could not get enough tomatoes over the summer – we bought pounds of them every Saturday at the Farmer’s Market. I would count the minutes until lunchtime everyday (and some days I will admit eating lunch inappropriately early!) cause baby girl would not be denied!
After being essentially full term in my pregnancy, I was not able to fit in my normal clothing when I got home. When I brought Reeves home, I wore my maternity clothes for a few
weeks months and it didn’t matter. I had a new baby and no one cared what I looked like – least of all me.
After losing Madison, it was far too painful to wear my maternity clothes. I did it – once. The entire time I felt people staring at me, smiling kindly about the baby I had on the way. I wanted to scream and cry out the truth, but instead I just smiled back and prayed to get home so I could go back inside my shell of grief.
Ya’ll, I wore the same 2 pairs of pants for 3 months until I finally broke down and bought some clothes that fit. And I was fortunate enough to work from home, many women who experience a loss have to return to work outside of the home and need clothing to wear.
It wasn’t because I couldn’t afford to buy a few things to wear. It was because I couldn’t face clothing a body that I hated, a body I felt failed me.
My self confidence, already suffering a serious blow from the loss of my child inside me was now completely gone.
And I decided, these brave women, my sisters in loss, would have a place to go where they could order clothing free of charge from the comfort and safety of their homes. Clothing that would hopefully help them feel beautiful and strong and able to face what comes next. The clothing will be donated by other women who want to help. I only ask that those receiving the donated clothing either return the clothing once they are no longer in need and/or make a donation of their own.
And Madison’s Closet was born.
I would be honored to have your support on this journey.
My vision is to have Madison’s Closet be a source of support to women who have lost babies. One of the best ways you can help, is by sharing Madison’s Closet so that they know we are here to help. Please click here to see ways you can do just that.
If you would like to make a donation of clothing, please provide your information here and I will be back in touch with next steps.
I also have a Shop of hopeful and inspiring apparel and other items that I hope you will consider purchasing to help support our work.
I am always looking for partners to work with that would be interested in helping these women on their journeys back. Please click here to get in touch.
If you are a Mom who is need of clothing, please visit our Receive page and I will be in touch soon with our current availability of clothing. Please also visit our Resource page which I update frequently with other organizations out there who are here to help.
With so much love and light to you all,